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“Things are gonna be really busy for me in the next couple of weeks.”
A girl told me this a couple weeks ago, and like that I got filed into a tidy box marked, “rejected.” Maybe if I was lucky she’ll put the box in a closet and move it to the left.
Sometimes a girl will tell you straight up that you have no chance with her. Other times they put up the busy excuse: out of town, work getting out of control, friends in town, etc.
The idea is her life has gotten so busy that she doesn’t have time to date anyone.
Sounds normal right? People get busy. It’s not like she’s saying she doesn’t want to not see you, she just can’t do it now. You are left with hope that there’s always the next week, the next weekend, then she’ll be free.
That’s not the case guys. She just can’t tell you the truth: she’s too nice to tell you she doesn’t want to date you.
It’s a theory that I would like to call the, “Washing My Hair” theory. It borrows from the old joke that a girl has to take a shower all night long- and thus cannot go out with you.
So the theory works like this: if a girl is really attracted to you beyond the first date she’ll make you a priority.
I’m not saying that women aren’t really busy, but that her interest level in you doesn’t trump other events in her life. I feel that if a girl is really into you she will always find time for even a cup of coffee or a drink.
Katie: on the second date with [current boyfriend], i had a horrible, horrible day.
i thought about canceling.
but thought better of it because i liked him so much.
Now there are somethings in life that do get in the way- but if a girl is really interested in you she’s not going to let you go without knowing she’s going to see you again. Maybe she’ll recommend a better time and you make a date then.
I guess what makes me so frustrated is that I want to know what’s really going on. There’s a false sense of hope when a girl is really busy- a sense that maybe you’ll get that second date in.
But alas I’ve now learned that if a girl is busy- she’s too busy for you- if a different guy walks in she may be all of a sudden less busy.
Am I right ladies?
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