The Single Life: Looking For That Second Ticket

by Patrick on September 28, 2009

02It’s a vicious cycle

Last week I talked about the DMB concert I missed out on, and while it’s been the only time I wasn’t able to make a sure I bought tickets for- trying to find last minute concert partners has always been a problem for me.

I never thought DMB was widely popular; despite being the 9th highest tour in 2006 in gross revenue I always had trouble finding other friends to go to a show with me. Every time tour dates were released I’d go see which shows I wanted to go to and buy a pair of tickets for said show. Without a go-to person, I’d usually ask around and I’d usually get excuses that DMB wasn’t really their thing or that tickets would be too expensive. Trying to find a concert partner usually ended up being a problem up until the week of the show. I rarely have been to a concert that didn’t include weeks of worrying of who my extra ticket will go to.

Now I’ve been lucky to have a few go-to buddies in the past, growing up in Chelmsford Jimmy was always down with a DMB show and more recently I was happy to find out that my friend LJ was a big DMB fan. I also have to acknowledge that thanks to my friends at Am I Dreaming, I’ve had a great network of friends I’d meet up with at shows.

The problem still remains of who be my extra ticket.

And so I go through the same motions tour after tour, excited to see one of my favorite live acts, somewhat disappointed that I didn’t have anyone to really share it with.

I know that despite my schedule and excuses I made last Thursday, if I had someone that was just as excited to see DMB that I was- I would of done anything to get to that concert.

DMB is my lonely passion, lonely in that I have nobody to share it with.

And it’s moments like last week that make me realize how much I hate not having someone to share something I love with.

Don’t you have something you’d love to share with someone? Maybe it’s a hobby or a YouTube clip, doesn’t it suck a little bit when you don’t have someone to share your interests with? Sure your interests are your interests- but doesn’t your love for something grow when you are able to spread it?

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Tagged as: DMB, Friends, My Dating Life

  • http://12minds.com Berto

    Dude, I’m so there with you. My big issue is travel – I want to visit new places and go on vacations, but the truth is that I often sortof wish I could have someone set to do that with. Which is to say, I’m bothered sometimes that I have to think to myself whether 1) there’s anyone that’d be game to do this or 2) whether I’d be ok with doing it myself.

    And the truth of the matter is that too many concerts, shows, and travel opportunities have been missed out as a result.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Ya for me I’m ok with doing thing by myself- I’ve been to DMB shows alone before,it’s not a lot of fun but that’s how much I love DMB.

  • Seth

    4th of July friend! For future reference, if you ever need to find someone to go to a DMB show with…let me know!

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Hello 4th of July buddy, good to know you’re down for DMB… I’ll have to remember this when we meet again next year.

  • http://francobeans.com f.B

    The sharing is so important. Not being able to do so stifles it. I hope you get your someone.
    .-= f.B´s last blog ..i’m a hater =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks f.B!

  • http://thecheshiregrins.xanga.com Meg

    I’ve been to many a DMB concert and luckily I’ve always had someone to go with me. In fact, up until this year, I’ve had the same person to go with to all of the concerts that I’ve been to (I think I’ve been going at least once a year since 2001). This year she couldn’t go so I took my fiance. To me, live music is something to be shared. I feel you!
    .-= Meg´s last blog ..It Came from the Metro: Rapunzel =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      My DMB life would be easier back home…

  • http://lacochran.blogspot.com lacochran

    I found this so poignant. Thanks for encapsulating a feeling.
    .-= lacochran´s last blog .."You can’t always get what you want" –The Rolling Stones =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks! I hope I see you at the wedding, I’ll be the one crying.

  • http://grand2.blogspot.com/ Tonya

    I wish I had someone whenever I book a trip and am stuck with the full cost of the hotel room. So I guess that’s a “no” to your question. :)

    My friends suffice to share funny/sweet/sad moments with. I’m too wary to share my heart anymore, so that works.
    .-= Tonya´s last blog ..Why Is this News? =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Interesting take here- don’t wanna sound trite but sounds like you’ve been let down too many times.

  • Cait

    Just as hard (if not worse, actually) is when you find someone who shares those interests, and then things end. You no longer have someone who enjoys the same bands, and those things are basically tainted with memories that can be painful. Your favorite things now become associated with someone else, which makes them hard to be your favorite things anymore.

    Maybe enjoying things on your own isn’t so bad.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      It isn’t I’ve been doing it for awhile now.

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