My New Suit, My New Job, And What I Learned

by Patrick on March 23, 2010

IMG_0419I looked like a million bucks. I felt like a million bucks.

I was in a Macy’s dressing room trying on a new Tommy Hilfiger suit and I loved it. I loved it more than any other suit I owned. The fit was perfect, the lines were great, and it made me feel powerful. Yet there were things about this suit that were different from any other suit I had in my closet: it was double vented, it was pin striped, the pants were flat front rather than pleated. All things I’ve never been used to with a suit and that I wasn’t entirely sure about, but I knew once I saw it on me that I was ready to take the style plunge.

A new suit has been on my shopping list for quite some time, and I’ve finding events in my life to use as excuses to expand my wardrobe: weddings, bar mitzvahs (haven’t been invited to a lot of those), and yacht trips (anybody own a yacht? I need an excuse to get some new top-siders.) My excuse on this trip was to get a new suit for a big interview, an interview with the CEO of New Media Strategies.

Four years ago I moved into Arlington to start working at what is now TMG Strategies. I walked into my boss’ office yesterday to inform them I have accepted an offer to become the newest member of the NMS team. I will be starting in April as a Corporate Online Analyst where I hope to bring my perspective and experience in both social media and film/video to take on a fresh new set of exciting challenges. I am thrilled to start a new chapter of my life but, at the same time, I can’t believe a chapter of my life is ending. I’m leaving my first job after college, a big step when many of my friends didn’t even know what to do after school- much less know what to do after they land that first job. Moving on to my second job in DC area brings me closer from ex-Bostonian to full fledged Washingtonian.

Thoughts while transitioning jobs:

  1. Am I a Gen-Y Outlier? One thing I know about Gen-Y is that we are constantly changing jobs. My best friend Dave changed jobs from PR firm A to PR firm B- and is now back at PR firm A; Rebecca already has a resume which includes a couple of companies and is now a big shot at her third; Lexa has finally found her dream job after a few gigs. I’ve managed to buck the Gen-Y trend- four years at one company. When I told my friends about my new job a few of them asked how long I’ve been with TMG and commented that it was a long time. I suppose they are right and it makes me wonder for someone that embraces his status as a Gen-Yer, what was it that kept me so loyal in an area where so many are not?
  2. Get A Support System: Sometimes I’m fiercely independent but when this new opportunity fell into my lap I sought the help of many people. Having a friend in the HR field proved invaluable when I had questions. Also having two friends that I could go to throughout the entire journey made things much easier. They were always on my side and cheered me on every step of the way.
  3. Don’t Burn Your Bridges: When I quit my job a lot of people asked how I went about it and what I’ll say is that I handled it professionally. Lots of people dream about the way they would love to quit their job, but to be honest I was a bit sad to give my notice yesterday. TMG has been a wonderful company to work for and I am going to walk away with many memories and a perspective on life that I will have with me forever. If you ever quit your job remember to do it with class and respect- you never know whose reference you’ll need or who’ll end up being your next boss.
  4. Network, Network, Network: The first question I was asked in my interviews was how did you hear of us? It wasn’t through a Monster, Craigslist, or Washington Post ad- it was from a tweet from the NMS HR Twitter feed. How did I find this feed? Through a friend I made while engaging local DC bloggers last year. We didn’t know each other because I was looking for a job- we knew each other because I wanted to get to know other bloggers in the area like me. Make friends. Lots of friends. You never know who’ll be the next person to help you out and you’ll never know who’ll be the next person who will need your help the most.
  5. Have No Fear: A lot of Gen-Y are afraid. They are afraid to make a change sometimes, they are afraid of this economic climate and their changes to grow in their careers. When I saw Lexa and Rebecca accomplish some really great things with their careers I realized that you can’t let the environment control you- you need to control your own environment. It’s your attitude, drive, and hard work that will get you places- and if you work hard enough, you can eventually accomplish some great things. The key is to not be afraid and take some risks.

I didn’t know if pinstripes and double vents  would work on me but I tried it on, loved the look, and walked out of the store with my new suit- and my new future.

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  • Jena

    Congratulations! :) You’ve come a long way from the slightly annoying underclassman I knew in high school. I’m proud to know you. :)

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks Jena- but wait I was an annoying underclassman?

      • Jena

        I remember you being very gung-ho, which was probably what annoyed my laid back senior self. ;) And I only said slightly annoying! :) By college, you were cool and the energy was less twitchy teenager, more enthusiastic college kid. :)

        • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

          It makes sense- high school was weird for everybody.

  • http://www.whatagrandworld.blogspot.com Rachel

    CONGRATS!! That’s so exciting and the job sounds like a great fit for you. Good luck :)
    .-= Rachel´s last blog ..If I were something else… =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      I’ll need it, these people are top notch social media experts

  • http://blog.thepixelkitchen.net ajw93

    Hm. Double-vented? I don’t know how I feel about that. Flat-front pants are good, though. As long as they break over your laces, and meet the top of your heel in back. Don’t get me started on sleeve length.

    Seriously though. Congratulations! It sounds like you are excited which is important! And you are right, don’t burn your bridges. Getting a recommendation — among other helpful contact — later on, should you need it, is a lot easier when you’re still in touch and on friendly terms.

    Good luck to you!

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      I was nervous about double vents too, but I think my rear is fine for it.

  • http://www.emilyjasper.com/ Emily Jasper

    Awesome news! It sounds like you handled everything with class, and that’s more than enough indication that there’s great stuff to come from you! Chili mac celebration!

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Last year I actually made a promise to myself to do something the day I left TMG. It doesn’t involve Chili mac but perhaps it could.

  • http://flipflopsintherain.wordpress.com flipflopsintherain

    Congrats!! I’m going through very similar transitions right now, except mine are turning me into a full-fledged Washington(state)ian. I wish you the best and enjoy your last few days at your first-job-out-of-college. I know I am!
    .-= flipflopsintherain´s last blog ..if you don’t know, now you know… =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      That is right- congrats to you too, we should have a joint transition party.

      • http://flipflopsintherain.wordpress.com flipflopsintherain

        Thanks, Patrick! And I agree — this time, let’s definitely not plan two separate parties on the same night. ;-)
        .-= flipflopsintherain´s last blog ..if you don’t know, now you know… =-.

        • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

          Yes let’s plan two parties in the same place on the same night. Wait did I get that right?

  • lexa

    Well, congrats are in order. Well done.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      You are my hero Lexa!

  • http://www.icanhasissues.com Dysfunction Junction

    As I’ve told you 8 million different times, this is awesome. And by making me a part of your search, I feel buoyed by your success. I know that my networking & connecting will pay off, I’ve just got to keep pushing.

    So, really, thank YOU.
    .-= Dysfunction Junction´s last blog ..Unreal =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      It will- and if it results in more videos I think it’s a good thing.

  • http://jerzeygrrl.com JerzeyGrrl

    Congrats hun! It’s super exciting to hear about all of this. So proud of you!
    .-= JerzeyGrrl´s last blog ..The Rules, maybe it’s time to play by them =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks- it’s not drunk guy logic but it took me awhile to figure out.

  • http://www.rachelsmiles.com RachelSmiles

    congrats patrick! i’m so happy for you :)
    .-= RachelSmiles´s last blog ..happy anniversary to me! =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks and happy anniversary!

  • http://www.ajerseykid.com brad
    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      It’s ok maybe another tip is to keep it secret til you are ready- you know how rumors fly…

  • http://www.mikechiasson.com Mike

    Couldn’t be happier for you! And damn I never realized how much you knew about suit lingo.
    .-= Mike´s last blog ..Taking The Plunge, Dedicated Host vs Shared Hosting =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks to Google I was ready to pick out a suit.

  • http://blog.michaelcrane.net Mike

    Congratulations and best of luck, I can’t wait to read more about it!
    .-= Mike´s last blog ..I have exceeded my RDA of schadenfreude for today. =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks Mike!

  • http://www.loveelizabethany.com elizabethany

    congrats, boo!!! :-D excitingggg!!!!

    and yes, network, network, network! I’m sure they loved hearing you saw the tweet!

    hopefully I’ll have a somewhat similar post soon…like.. within a couple months… maybe… hopefully?! haha

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      You know the most about networking- Ms. Real World!

  • Your Favorite Admissions Counselor

    Congrats Pho! So proud of you – look what that FSC Education has done for you!!

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      You’ll love this- the CEO went to Cushing Academy and totally knew FSC!

      • Your Favorite Admissions Counselor

        AWESOME!!!!!!!!!! When are you coming to visit – you’ve been gone for 4 years now and I don’t think I’ve seen you!

        • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

          I’m going to come back for Kim’s commencement- we need to talk alumni march.

  • http://lustyreader.wordpress.com/ Lusty Reader

    yay! it was fun chatting with you about getting the offer you want and what to say, finally i can help the CANDIDATE when usually i am all-corporate-selfish-judgy-HR lady. im just so glad you got what you wanted in the end, congrats honey!
    .-= Lusty Reader´s last blog ..Heart of Stone, by Jill Marie Landis GIVEAWAY and review =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks for all your help!

  • http://aliceblogs.blogspot.com Alice

    yay! congrats! very exciting :-) (also, definitely a good call on the flat front pants. just forced my own bf to steer clear of the pleats) ;-)
    .-= Alice´s last blog ..paintings of the pole: volume 3 =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      I hate pleats! Is there a wear to de-pleat my current suits?

  • http://liebchen11.wordpress.com Liebchen

    Congrats on the new job! And that new suit sounds very stylish. I like it already.
    .-= Liebchen´s last blog ..Still on a bit of a Marathon high =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks Liebchen- I need to make all my suits like this one. Basically I need to start dressing like Barney from HIMYM.

  • Len

    Congrats Patrick! And to all of you reading out there…he’s right…networking works! Every job I’ve ever had (except one) came from networking (and I REALLY hated that one). And the first interview question I’ve had multiple times is, “how do you know…?” I’m looking forward to reading about your future successes Patrick.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      You’re right- that’s how you ended up at TMG at one point! Making friends is a good thing!

  • http://www.4SportBoston.com Craigga

    My main man Pho. I talk to you today and still, this is how I find this info out? Man, I love the way you work, and so with NMS! No one knows social media better than you.

    Congrats on the new job and the new digs. From the shoulder pad, I tell it’s a classy piece.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Haha I’ll have to sport it next time I have a wedding in Massachusetts. Oh jees who’s the next one? Mike?

  • Adam

    Congratulations Patrick!!! Been a long time and you’ve worked so hard to earn a new job! CONGRATULATIONS!!! Sounds like I owe you a few drinks!!

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Adam I might owe you a few drinks, sorry I couldn’t make it out on Saturday, let me know next time you have a party!

  • http://nms.com Brittany

    Patrick –

    Beyond thrilled to welcome you to our team. Looking forward to working with you for many years to come!

    See you in April :)
    .-= Brittany´s last blog ..At SXSW, Last Year’s Next Big Thing Was This Year’s Actual Big Thing =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks for your early support- I really appreciate it!

  • http://shefightsback.blogspot.com Amanda K

    Nothing like a new power suit to land a job! Congrats :D
    .-= Amanda K´s last blog ..well it’s got me singing love songs/ and my soul dancing in the rain =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      That’s exactly how I had it on my long-term shopping list: Power Suit.

  • http://enjoylifeandprosper.wordpress.com Krissy

    Thanks for the shout-out and CONGRATS. You owe me a lunch for my cholesterol score, by the way. Let’s make it happen next week.
    .-= Krissy´s last blog ..Don’t Forget the Follow-Through =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Whoa I need to get my score first!

  • Nikki

    Patrick, what a fabulous new chapter for you. Amd done the right way–I promise you that in this city, that’ll pay off in spades. I’m so excited for you on this new adventure.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks Nikki!

  • http://lacochran.blogspot.com lacochran

    Congrats on the new gig!

    I bought two suits in two weeks for (hopefully) first and second round interviews. Got through the first round today. *fingers crossed that I’ll get to use the second suit*
    .-= lacochran´s last blog ..This Space Left Intentionally Blank =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      I think I’m addicted to suits now- I should of gotten two!

  • http://www.ihatesomuch.com Maxie

    Congrats.

    More on the new suit than the job.

    It sounds spiffy.
    .-= Maxie´s last blog ..Holy Hiatus, Batman. =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Um thanks. Maybe I’ll wear it out for you.

  • Caroline

    As Patrick’s “former boss,” I totally concur that he handled his departure with class and grace and burned no bridges. And he made sure he helped me as much as he could on the way out the door. Good luck, Patrick, and we will miss you! Caroline

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks Caroline- life is so different than it was at TMG, miss it already!

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  • http://spitonthestreet.wordpress.com Melody

    one of the most amazing things about living in Korea is the fact that almost all Koreans have style. I have not seen a single suit on a man that hasn’t fit them perfectly because it is so inexpensive to get them tailored to fit you. I bet you were so asian in that suit, way to hold your own.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Aw man I want to live in a place where everything was custom tailored for me.

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