The Single Life: One Step Away From Having Cats

by Patrick on March 12, 2010

40virginYou could call it a step towards a more independent life, or a step towards gaining a feline companion.

For the most part I spent this year’s Oscar Watch watching films with friends or by myself on a TV.

In the week leading up to the Oscars however I made a big step in a dedicated effort to try and see every nominated film, I went to the movies by myself.

I’ve never been to the movie theatre by myself before- it just seems like a very lonely thing to do along with dining in a restaurant by yourself. Wait a minute I’ve done that too.

I’ve also gone to DMB concerts by myself too.

Oh no. I’m desperately lonely.

A more self-confident side of me could say I’m simply living life on my own terms, and going out to do the things I want to do when I want to- not based on somebody else’s schedule. But I prefer to wallow in my own self pity.

What is next? Am I going to buy a house? Am I going to give up on dating? Am I going to become like Steve Carrell on the 40 year old virgin?

If so I guess I need to invest in polo shirts. Oh no. I already own quite a few.

I’m in deep trouble.

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Tagged as: My Dating Life, Oscar Watch

  • http://blog.thepixelkitchen.net ajw93

    Bwah! Call me when you’re my age. Then you can start to worry.

    I have embraced my spinsterhood (and my cat, but at least I only have 1), found hobbies, etc. However, this may not hold once I hit the next decade marker.

    Going to the movies by oneself isn’t too bad, as long as one doesn’t go on date night. I still won’t dine by myself, though. That’s just…sad.
    .-= ajw93´s last blog ..Wha? =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Consider me a sad man. Or maybe A Single Man. Wait I’m not Colin Firth.

  • http://liebchen11.wordpress.com Liebchen

    I actually love going to movies by myself. Even on date night.

    And, I don’t do it often, but I’ll dine by myself on occasion. I usually need a book or something, though.
    .-= Liebchen´s last blog ..Good news! =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      I enjoy going to a diner with some sort of computing device- I think movies are more ok because it’s dark and nobody talks, but in a restaurant you become that guy.

  • http://capslove.wordpress.com Dazey

    I can’t decide if those who comment on this post should be reassuring you that you are not the only one who does social things by yourself, or if people should be giving you advice on how to get a girl (or guy, i won’t judge. lol!). However, the trend seems to be the former, and since my advice to you for getting a GF probably wouldn’t be welcomed, I’ll go along to comment that no, Patrick, you are not the only one who is single and not liking it.

    I have recently discovered the notion that if I want to go to a movie and there is nobody to go with, then it is somewhat acceptable to go alone. I may actually like doing this now. I mean, aside from making snide remarks during the previews, it’s not like you actually talk to the person you’re with when you go to the movies. It is however, a tad weird if you are like me, and choose to see a children’s movie alone. But whatever, The Princess and the Frog was great!

    Also, I think my lowest point may have been going to a bar to watch the Caps game alone. I sat at the bar, tried to order the least attention-grabbing dish, and failed. And then I thought I was making cute eye contact with a hot guy across the bar, only to get upset when all these lady friends of his showed up after the game. Yeah, it was really depressing and pathetic. Oh well, I’d like to think there are more pathetic things to do when you’re single and looking, and I/you/we just haven’t gotten to that point yet.
    .-= Dazey´s last blog ..Werewolf vs. Penguin =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      I’ve gone to a bar alone to watch a Patriots game- I just ordered lunch and ate while watching the game. I thought it was no biggie…

  • http://www.ajerseykid.com brad

    I like movies by myself, too. I think I’d be too self-conscious to eat alone, but even that really depends on the place.

    In other words, these things are personality traits, not symptoms of loneliness and heartache. You’ll be okay, dude.
    .-= brad´s last blog ..why would i wanna break up? =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks Brad- I think I’m simply becoming a more independent person, who needs a girlfriend?

  • http://dmp.dreamwidth.org D.M.P.

    For a long time when I first started living in NYC, I usually went to random events alone (because I had no friends… ^-^;;) That’s different now, which is nice, but I can understand the whole bachelor side even though I’m not single.

    But I don’t think this is a thing to worry about unless you think you’re closing yourself off to people in general and not just in a relationship sense.
    .-= D.M.P.´s last blog ..Beyond Victoriana Double Post! =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks Diana- I just got back from dinner by myself, but that was only because it’s fricken late.

  • http://www.aritza-goddess.blogspot.com Aritza, Goddess of ..

    Haha, now that you read my latest post.. you probably know how I feel about independence. I think it’s GREAT ! I’ve gone to movies and restaurants alone.. no biggie. I don’t like to eat alone though, unless I’m on the phone or texting someone.. lol, but movies are fine.

    You’re not in big trouble. The way I see it, you’ll truly be your own person (with your own activities, needs / wants) and a future gf will find it incredibly attractive. If and when you do get back into a relationship, you’re sure not to “lose” yourself, you will know exactly who you are (as a person, rather than defining yourself as someone’s bf).
    .-= Aritza, Goddess of ..´s last blog ..Goddess of .. When it rains, it pours ! =-.

    • http://www.dmbosstone.com Patrick

      Thanks Ms. Aritza! I do try and keep myself occupied when I decide to eat at a restaurant, no magazines but I’ll listen to a podcast or something.

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